For ourselves, it’s air, water, food, and a few other things first, before thinking about behaviors beyond ourselves.
As to passions for persons beyond our own skin, there are 3 kinds:
(1) Passion for God
(2) Passion for “others“
(3) Passion for a person
For more use the DOOR.
The Bible is clear in several places that loving and following God is, or should be, the #1 concern of Christians. And #2 is loving other people, sometimes identified as “neighbors as oneself,” or as the primary obligation of “going into all the world” to share the Gospel, help others, or especially respond to needs of the afflicted, widowed, orphans, and those hungry for an encounter with the Judeo/Christian God and Jesus his Son though they know nothing about Him.
Further, #3 is finding, accepting, and faithfully loving a marriage partner is a special obligation for many, though not all. (Being single sometimes can’t be avoided and sometimes offers advantages, though chastity is expected.)
Passions are wired in, acquired, and/or developed. We are made in the image of God, we are able to choose many of those we associate with, much of what we do, and we are able to make and enjoy lifetime commitments with another person.
Sometimes, however, our passions get tangled and mess up our lives. One of the saddest examples is the “good,” young, and rich ruler, who turned away from Jesus because he loved wealth and safety more than God¹.
The theme of the novel I’m working on, The Blood of Three Worlds, is that two precocious and naive Christian high school teens must wrestle with these passions, keeping them honorably and in order as they face together a one-way “forever” trip to an unknown new world filled with isolation, horror, grief, and unexpected tragedy. And, of course, a new language.
They are not without certain resources, however.
¹ Sadly, the rich young ruler is one of the very, very few to whom Jesus directly said, “Follow Me,” and then didn’t.