Yes, different definitions of romance abound, and only fools forget that…
But, if you want a working definition of
it’s just beyond our DOOR…
True romance — (n.) It’s what you have after imagining a half-dozen memorable images of couples “touching¹” on the silver screen, discarding whatever the iron in you finds edgy or too feeble², and (in your mind) adding better before and after scenes–some lasting seconds, some minutes, some longer–ignoring predictable celluloid animalization and the whipsaw flashing to new things that catch the eye but are hollow to the heart, things camouflaging what you know truly matters to the one beside you. (KIDz³)
Now forget film. Realize that movies are staged to make money and are acted out by people with mutant bodies who get paid to perform.
Your true romance? You’re the engine for that–you and your commitment to what you feel and believe. And to the one you love.
Not everyone explodes out of bed, detaching himself from the past hours and racing to the next thing.
And if Darwin were observing and taking notes? I think, given his assumptions, he’d vacillate between nodding off in bored confusion* and suddenly jerking himself up risking whiplash.
(In our next post, we’ll attempt to share a moment of true romance, easily missed, that appeared in a 19th century issue of Harper’s, a magazine that frequently, in my view, as many others in print and film, now goes over the edge. “But we’re reflecting what everybody today is doing,” is a common rejoinder. “Not so,” is our response to that.)
¹ We’ve talked often about the wonderful, fundamental, and mysterious human consciousness, or mind. Let it go to work–as we qualify below.
² Don’t confuse “feeble” with light or cowardly. In the modern race to understand and experience everything, we can easily bore and harm ourselves with meaningless repetitions that make calluses over basic sensitivities. Caution is prudent. The person who steps in front of a speeding train experiences a sensation that none of the rest of us has ever experienced. But he does so only once.
³ Knapp’s Internet Dictionary. (Only the Apostle Paul could write a longer, more wandering sentence…) The “z” added to “kid” lets you do a search of our definitions for other neologisms.
* The mystery (but reality) of true romance gets hung out to dry out using the crude tools of Darwinian thinking. (Why the * ? Our composing tools allow only 3 superscripts…)